[Disclaimer: Started and almost finished this blog post about three weeks ago…you know…like right after Valentine’s Day…hahaha, I just never got around to finishing it. #ENFPfolyfe]
Like I’ve mentioned in this previous post, RJ is not naturally the most “movie romantic” person. Almost every year, we may or may not have had fights over unmet Valentine’s Day expectations and almost every year, I may or may not have ended up in tears because of his refusal to acknowledge this Hallmark holiday, his lack of forethought in terms of our evening plans, and the flowerless vases sitting on top of our cabinets when I get out of bed (which FYI, he does always get me flowers for Valentine’s Day. Sometimes it’s just later in the day).
Now mind you, it’s not like he’s not sweet every other day of the year and it’s not like we don’t go out on dates throughout the year. I’m not starved for romance in any way, shape, or form. It is truly the every day things that show me that he loves me. Yet for some reason, every year, I insist that he do Valentine’s Day the classic “flowers and surprises and sweep-me-off-my-feet and take-me-out” way. Demanding, right? Typical girl!
With age, RJ has learned that Valentine’s Day is important to me and with age, I’ve learned to cut him a lot of slack with regards to expectations. So as he moves towards me in meeting these desires, I move towards him in extending grace. And year after year, we end up happier! See, friends? Expectations are just resentments waiting to happen! And when you lessen your grip on them, everyone ends up happier.
Anyways, I woke up on Valentine’s Day morning in a rush to get ready for our meeting with the missions coordinator at our church (nothing like a sexy church meeting to amp up the romance on Valentine’s Day!) and when I came out into the living room, there on the dining room table was a vase of beautiful red roses! Apparently, RJ woke up at 7:00am just to make sure to get the flowers ready before I woke up. What a guy, right??
After our morning meeting, we went to this bagel place, East Coast Bagel, that I’ve been dying to try. You know, they just don’t make bagels in California like they do in New York, am I right or am I right? But these bagels were pretty good. Probably one of the best non-chain bagel places I’ve been to since moving to California. I got the chipotle bagel breakfast sandwich with ham, egg, and cheese on a jalapeño cheddar bagel. Deeeeelicious!
What I really appreciated this year was the forethought RJ put into planning our Valentine’s Day dinner. Usually, we don’t really have a plan going into the evening, but this year, he researched a bunch of new restaurants for us to try on Yelp and presented my options to me. We always love trying new foods, so we ended up at a hole-in-wall German restaurant called Sima’s Restaurant in Colton.
Upon first glace, there’s not much to be impressed by. It looks misplaced, like it isn’t supposed to be in the ghetto complex that it’s in. Plus, they had this beat up sign outside to let you know that there is German food inside. Observe.
However, upon entering, you find yourself in a cozy dining room, greeted by the friendliest German man, Chef Alfred, and his Italian (?) wife, Sima, who are your hosts, your servers, and your cooks, all in one. Their son was even working in the restaurant on Valentine’s Day! They are super friendly and personable, visiting each table to make sure guests are fully satisfied with their meals. And they make all of their authentic dishes from scratch! You can lit’rally taste the love.
In the bottom right corner, you’ll see our appetizer, a delicious curry lentil soup. So fresh!! And when it came time for dessert, RJ and I squeezed on the little bench and shared this dessert. Two other couples dining in the restaurant commented on how cute and tiny we were to be able to squeeze on the bench together. I think they thought we were dating or newlyweds. Are we still newlyweds? When do you stop being a newlywed??
Over dinner, RJ and I reminisced and laughed about the disastrous Valentines’ Day passed, at which point, RJ said, “You know, I’m really glad that we fought so hard all those years and that you were honest with me about what was important to you and didn’t just let it go.” To which I agreed.
While each of those Valentine’s Days were definitely not the funnest, they’ve brought us to the sweet place of really enjoying one another now, and even more so in years to come. Ladies, we don’t need to compromise what’s important to us for fear of being “too needy” or “too girly,” but with a lot of patience, some time, and a humble and teachable guy who’s willing to try, you will really end up so happy with one another and more fulfilled than you can imagine. We can’t and shouldn’t hide our true desires. But I digress.
We closed out our night with the sexiest part of our day…ready for this??
Our student leadership meeting! Where RJ shared about the sexiest of all topics…Scripture memory!! I bet you wish you had a sexy end to your Valentine’s Day like we did. ;)
But in all seriousness, at the end of the night, it was super sweet. Each of our single guy students and staff presented some Valentine’s Day chocolate with a little note of affirmation and verse of encouragement for each woman at the meeting. Super sweet, right??
I am convinced that every woman needs some quality brothers like these. I know when I was single in college and post-college, I was so blessed by the love my brothers showed me on Valentine’s Day, especially one particular Valentine’s Day eve when I was a little bummed that I’d be missing out on V Day because I was going to Taiwan. Later that night after I shared my disappointment with one brother (my coworker now, actually), a bunch of guys came by my apartment with chocolate covered strawberries they had made themselves, knowing I was bummed about missing Valentine’s Day. With guys like these, who needs a man?? Well…I do. Hahaha. I need my man. But it sure did help while I was single!!
Talk about throwback Thursday! This gem dates back to pre-RJ dating days, to 2007!
Anyways. That was RJ and my Valentine’s Day 2013. And in case you are ever in our hood, you should def check out Sima’s and East Coast Bagel!
Thanks for reading! :)